Often the fighting kids do is a red light for parents. Many times they are simply not involved in anything better at the moment and they are bored. Parents can change these situations by making better efforts to structure their kids' day to include a certain amount of stimulation. Take some time to find out what things your children respond to, and then set them up to encounter those things during their day. You'll be surprised at how much this automatically cuts down on the fighting just because the kids have something better to do.
In the long run, the ability to recognize and respond to red lights in parenting (stop and do something about it) is much easier than dealing with the crashes that result from running them through or ignoring them all the time. Especially since parenting is for the long run, anyway. It's one of the longest forms of commitment there is, and too many crashes along the way can damage relationships. The parent road isn't really that much different than any other road...
Red means stop.
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